I found Elaine Okonkwo the way I find a lot of people these days — buried in a Facebook group comment thread. She had posted in a retirement-focused group asking whether the IRS could hold refund money indefinitely. The responses she got were vague and contradictory. I sent her a direct message that same afternoon, and two days later we were on a video call, her youngest playing in the background with a set of toy airplanes.
Elaine is 52, a flight attendant for a major carrier based out of Richmond, Virginia. She has two kids — ages 9 and 6 — and a husband who works part-time while managing the household. On paper, the family earns well. In practice, the money disappears before it lands.
A High Income That Doesn’t Feel Like One
Elaine’s situation is one I’ve reported on before in different forms: the household that earns too much to qualify for most assistance but not enough to absorb a financial shock. Her COBRA health insurance — which she locked into after a coverage gap during a contract dispute in late 2022 — runs $1,910 per month. Her mortgage and property taxes combined were already stretching the budget, and as of early 2026, she was $3,400 behind on county property taxes alone.
Childcare for two kids in the Richmond area costs the family roughly $2,200 per month. “I stopped looking at the bank account every day,” she told me. “I just stopped. Because every time I did, I felt this wave of nothing. Not panic — nothing. Like it stopped mattering.”
That emotional numbness, she explained, is part of why she never filed her 2022 federal return. The year had been chaotic — the contract dispute, a brief furlough period, a childcare provider who quit without notice. “Filing taxes felt like one more thing I couldn’t handle,” she said. “So I just didn’t.”
The Deadline She Didn’t Know Existed
What Elaine didn’t realize — and what millions of Americans apparently don’t either — is that the IRS operates under a three-year rule. According to the IRS official announcement from March 2026, taxpayers generally have three years to file a return and claim a refund. For the 2022 tax year, that window closes on April 15, 2026. After that date, any unclaimed refund is forfeited to the U.S. Treasury — permanently.
The IRS press release IR-2026-37, issued March 20, 2026, confirmed the scope of the problem. More than 1.3 million people did not file a federal return in 2023 for the 2022 tax year. The agency estimates the median unclaimed refund sits at approximately $686 — and that figure doesn’t account for credits that filers may be eligible for, such as the Earned Income Tax Credit, which could significantly increase a refund amount. You can check your own filing status through IRS.gov’s refund tracker.
What Elaine Found When She Finally Looked
When I described the IRS announcement to Elaine during our call, she went quiet for a moment. She had no idea the three-year window even existed. “I assumed if I didn’t file, they just… moved on,” she said. “I didn’t know they were literally holding money for me.”
Elaine’s 2022 had included a short furlough period and some variable pay that made the return more complicated than usual. She had assumed the complexity was another reason to delay. But when she finally pulled together her W-2s and ran a rough estimate with a tax prep service in late March 2026, the number that came back stopped her cold: approximately $1,380 in federal refund, after accounting for withholding overpayments and a partial EITC eligibility her preparer flagged.
The Filing Process — and What Slowed Her Down
Elaine filed her 2022 return on April 3, 2026 — just twelve days before the hard cutoff. The process wasn’t without friction. Her preparer needed a copy of a 1099 from a short-term contract shift she’d picked up in 2022, which took several days to locate. She also had to request a wage and income transcript from the IRS, which is available through the agency’s online portal.
Where Things Stand Now
As of our last conversation on April 6, Elaine’s return had been accepted and was processing. She wasn’t counting on a specific arrival date — the IRS typically issues refunds within 21 days for electronically filed returns, though prior-year paper returns can take longer. Elaine filed electronically, which put her in a better position.
The $1,380 won’t solve everything. The property tax arrearage alone is more than twice that amount. COBRA continues to drain nearly $23,000 per year from the family’s finances. But Elaine described the experience of finally filing as something she hadn’t expected: a small restoration of control in a situation that had made her feel like a passenger in her own financial life.
There are roughly 1.3 million people in the same position Elaine was in a month ago — and most of them, unlike Elaine, haven’t stumbled into a Facebook thread that put them in touch with someone asking questions. According to the IRS announcement IR-2026-37, those 1.3 million people are collectively owed $1.2 billion. After April 15, that money doesn’t go back to the people it was withheld from. It stays with the Treasury.
Elaine told me she’d already sent the IRS announcement to three people in her contacts who she suspected hadn’t filed 2022 returns. Two of them had already responded asking for help finding their documents. Whether they make the deadline is another story — but at least they know the deadline exists.
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